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What Women Look for in a Man
I’m wrapping up my little dating series for comedians. For this post I’m going to pull from Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss (told you I had a lot of dating books).
This book is filled with both research and lots of strategies for getting women — seems like a lot of work!
The book is able to explain why women prefer high status men, what my past boyfriends generally call, well, not donut holes, other kinds of “holes;” you get the picture. (Also note that all my past boyfriends of any length of time seemed nice at first, and then whammo! Not good. So there probably isn’t much point in dating “nice” guys either.)
The book points out that the handsomeness of a man has little to do with his looks, and lots to do with his skills and prowess. Hooray, you can be ugly and still get women!
“In a monogamous society, a woman often chooses a mate long before he has had a chance to become a chief, and she must look for clues to his future potential rather than rely only on past achievements.
Poise, self-assurance, optimism, efficiency, perseverance, courage, decisiveness, intelligence, ambition — these are the things that cause a men to rise to the top of their professions. And not coincidentally, these are the things women find attractive.
In other words, if you exhibit the right traits for success, some women will take a chance on you even if you’re currently unemployed.”
I’m not sure of that last bit about unemployment, but I generally agree with the rest. Notice that humour isn’t mentioned here? Sad day for comedians.
a) Is it possible that women think they know what they want, but really don’t?
b) Is it possible that all women are crazy?
c) Is it possible that women, as a given, kind of figure that if they date you, they should enjoy your company, and so humour is part of that, but they are also looking for these other things?
d) Is it possible that in high school, humour went a long way, because the girl’s family fed her and clothed her and put a roof over her head, so she didn’t have a lot of criteria, but once she had to support herself, she had to decide whether you might be a help or a hindrance to that, and to any future babies of yours she might end up with for 20 years.
I’m going to go with mostly “c.”
Another possibility is that Neil Strauss is an idiot who doesn’t know anything. After all, he didn’t talk about bedroom skills either.
